What about Appreciation?

In both our professional and personal lives, the power of validation and recognition cannot be underestimated. I’ve often noticed how quick we are to criticize, yet how slow we are to offer praise. It’s as if the act of acknowledging someone’s efforts has become a rare gem, overshadowed by a culture that emphasizes what’s lacking rather than what’s present. This is a pattern that I believe we need to change, not only for the sake of others but for the benefit of our entire community.

Consider this scenario: you’re working on a project, pushing yourself to meet the deadline. Maybe you even finish early, adding some extra touches to make the outcome even better. But instead of receiving a simple "thank you" or acknowledgment, you’re met with silence, or worse, a curt "It’s about time!" It’s disheartening, isn’t it? This kind of response diminishes the enthusiasm and drive that could have been fueled by just a few words of appreciation.

The same applies in our personal relationships. Too often, we focus on what someone didn’t do—like forgetting to take out the trash—rather than recognizing the many things they do day in and day out. We might complain about a partner not helping with a chore, yet overlook the fact that they consistently provide emotional support or work hard to contribute to the household. This imbalance in our responses erodes the foundation of trust and mutual respect that healthy relationships are built on.

Research supports the idea that recognition and positive reinforcement lead to higher motivation and productivity. According to a study by Gallup, employees who feel their contributions are recognized are more likely to be engaged and stay with their companies longer. The same principle applies in our personal lives—people who feel appreciated are more likely to go above and beyond, not because they have to, but because they want to.

So how do we turn this around? It starts with a conscious effort to see the people around us, really see them, and acknowledge their efforts. Whether it’s a colleague who completed a task on time or a friend who always makes time to listen, offering a genuine "thank you" can make all the difference. By shifting our focus from criticism to recognition, we can create environments where people feel valued and respected.

This isn’t just about making others feel good; it’s about fostering a culture where kindness and gratitude are the norm, not the exception. Imagine a world where we uplift each other with our words and actions, where we encourage rather than diminish. It’s not a far-fetched dream; it’s a reality we can create, starting with the simple act of recognizing and validating those around us.

So, the next time someone does something well, whether big or small, take a moment to acknowledge it. Let them know you see their effort, and you appreciate it. It might just be the spark they need to keep shining even brighter. 

And don't worry—by doing so, you’ll also receive the recognition you deserve. After all, it’s always a two-way street!