The Villain in Your Story

If someone from my past—or even my present—shares a story about me that casts me in a negative light, I hope you’ll take a moment to reflect. Believe their version if it resonates with you, but also consider this: What might have led to that moment? What role did they play in the story they’re telling?

I’ve come to terms with the fact that, in some people’s narratives, I might be seen as the villain. And that’s okay. Life isn’t always black
and white, and every story has layers. I know that people’s memories can be selective. Often, they begin their story where I appeared to be at fault, skipping over what happened before. But I’ve made peace with this because I know myself, and I know my heart.

I’ve never woken up with the intention of causing harm. That’s not who I am. But life has taught me the importance of boundaries. When someone crosses those boundaries—when they betray me, disrespect me, or hurt me—I won’t lash out or seek revenge. That’s not my way. Instead, I protect myself by creating distance, by walking away.

Sometimes, that act of self-preservation is misunderstood. Losing access to me may feel like punishment to them, and it might make me the villain in their eyes. But I see it differently. It’s not about cruelty or holding a grudge; it’s about valuing my peace and my well-being. It’s about knowing when to step away from a situation that no longer serves me.

There was a time when I would’ve bent over backward to explain myself. I might’ve tried to convince others that I wasn’t the person I was being made out to be. But over the years, I’ve learned that I don’t need to do that. The people who truly know me—the ones who matter—see the full picture. They know my actions are never without reason, even if they don’t always agree.

This isn’t a story of blame or bitterness. It’s a reflection on growth and self-respect. It’s about understanding that we all have our limits and that it’s okay to stand up for yourself when those limits are crossed. Choosing to protect your peace doesn’t make you a bad person—it makes you human.

So, if my decision to step back from pain or betrayal makes me the villain in someone else’s story, I can accept that. Because in my story, I am someone who values honesty, kindness, and boundaries. And I hop if you’ve ever felt the same, that you’ll allow yourself the grace to walk away when you need to.

Your story is yours to write. Don’t let anyone else hold the pen.

Have a great weekend!