What You Are Not Changing, You Are Choosing

As the year winds down, it's natural to reflect on what has worked for us and what hasn't. Yet, many of us fall into the trap of complaining about the things that make us unhappy while resisting the changes that could free us. Here's the hard truth: if you are not changing what bothers you, you are choosing to keep it in your life.

Let that sink in for a moment.

This realization can feel uncomfortable at first, but it is also deeply empowering. If we accept that every situation we tolerate is, in essence, a choice, we reclaim the power over our lives. With this awareness, two transformative paths emerge:

1. Understand Why You’re Choosing It
   Often, we keep things in our lives that don’t align with our preferences because of underlying fears, beliefs, or habits. For example, staying in a toxic job might feel safer than facing the uncertainty of change. But when we ask ourselves, Why am I choosing this? and dig deep for the answer, we might discover the real reasons holding us back. Awareness is the first step to release—once you understand why you’re choosing something, you can begin to let it go.

2. Decide to Change It
   Once you’ve acknowledged that staying in your current situation is a choice, you are free to make a new one. Change doesn’t have to be dramatic or immediate. Small, consistent steps toward something better are just as powerful. Start by asking, What can I do today to move closer to the life I want? Then do it. Repeat it. And watch your life transform.

Here’s the truth: You can’t expect different results by doing the same things. If you want your life to change, you must be willing to change how you think, act, and approach the world.

A Holiday Season of Transformation

The holidays are a perfect time to reflect on what you truly want and need in life. Use this season not just to celebrate but to envision the changes you want to create in the coming year. Think about what you’re not changing and recognize it as your choice. Then, ask yourself—What can I choose instead?

I wish you a fantastic Christmas filled with joy, love, and meaningful transformation.

For those who don’t celebrate Christmas, may this holiday season—whether it’s Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Yule, or simply the end of the calendar year—bring you peace, warmth, and a renewed sense of purpose. And for everyone, no matter your beliefs or traditions, may this time of year inspire you to embrace the changes that lead to a life of fulfillment and happiness.

Let’s make this season a time for bold choices and brighter futures. 🌟