What if You Are the Problem?

Look, I’m just gonna say it—stop being a fool. You’re always complaining about how your life sucks, how nothing ever works out, and how it’s always someone else’s fault. The job? Oh, it’s your boss being unfair. Your relationship? That’s gotta be your partner’s issue, right? Friends? “No one understands me.” You see a pattern here? Yeah, you are the common thread in all of this.

You’re constantly looking for someone or something to blame—your boss, the economy, the weather, hell, even Mercury retrograde. But deep down, you know it’s all bullshit. You know that no matter where you go, what job you take, or who you’re with, the same crap keeps happening to you. Why? Because it’s you. You are the one dragging this cloud of negativity wherever you go.

It’s like you’re stuck on repeat. You keep hitting the same walls, and instead of asking, What am I doing wrong? you’re out here acting like the universe is out to get you. Newsflash: the universe isn’t plotting against you. It’s just reflecting back exactly what you’re putting out there.

And don’t roll your eyes at me. You know I’m right. Every time you say, Things never work out for me, what happens? They don’t. Because you’ve already decided they won’t. You expect the worst, and the universe, like the loyal mirror it is, gives you exactly that. It’s showing you you.

Stop acting like a victim when you’re the one holding the remote. You keep flipping to the same miserable channel, and then you’re surprised when nothing changes? You’re the one creating this reality, man. It’s your thoughts, your beliefs, your energy that’s turning everything into a mess.

But here’s the thing—it doesn’t have to be that way. You get that, right? If you’re the one creating this mess, that means you can also clean it up. Yeah, it’s not all doom and gloom. In fact, this is the best news you could get.

The moment you realize it’s all on you, that’s the moment you get your power back. You stop waiting for life to hand you something better, and you start creating it yourself. I mean, think about it—if everything is a reflection of you, then all you have to do is change what’s inside. Change your attitude, change your beliefs, change what you expect out of life, and guess what? Life will start reflecting something different.

I’m not saying it’ll be easy or happen overnight, but the sooner you stop blaming everyone and everything else, the sooner you can actually get your shit together. And that’s when the real magic happens.

So, the next time you want to throw a pity party or blame the world for your problems, stop. Look in the mirror and ask yourself: What am I putting out there that’s coming back to me?

Because once you get that it’s all you, you’ll realize something huge—you’re not stuck. You never were. You just needed to get out of your own way.